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Dear Peg:

My girlfriend just asked me to marry her.  Now I am only 22 years old and she is 20.  I love her and think getting married would be great in a year but I have a few questions.  1. Since she asked me shouldn’t I have gotten a ring or something.  2.  Its been two weeks and she is hinting for a ring from me.  Do I need to get her a ring? 

I am so confused by this.  What is the correct procedure in this case?

Proposal Confusion
Miami, FL

Dear Confused:

I really like this letter because woman are getting more and more confident in order to be the one to ask for a mans hand in marriage.  In answer to your question about whether she should have gotten you a ring.  Well yes she could have but no that is not a common practice.  The type of ring she could have gotten you would be a slightly fancier wedding band that can also be used during your marriage ceremony.  As far as whether or not you need to get her a ring.  YES!

I know that this doesn’t sound fair but for a long lasting relationship I will let you in on a few secrets.  The day she proposed you should have said yes and then scheduled a window shopping trip with her for the next day.  Small discussions about how much you can afford and what type of style ring she likes as well as size could take place.  Then you tell her that someday soon she will have a ring from you.  Now I know that you probably have not saved up for this expense and it will take some time to get the money together.  You can make her wait and explain this to her.  She should understand.  Don’t set a wedding date yet which will further draw attention to the fact she has no ring.  Gather your funds as quickly as possible and purchase her a ring she will love and you can afford.

The next step is to ask her to marry you.  I know you are thinking…”but I already said I would…why ask?”  The reason is because the way you ask her will say a lot as to your state of mind regarding the subject.  If you want this she will know.  Don’t do anything crazy and don’t do it in public or before family.  Private in a quiet location and make sure you mention “When you asked me to marry you I was happy.  I got excited and now I want you to know that I want this more than anything and it is now time for us to set a date.  I have gotten this ring to show you just how much you mean to me”….and make sure you add more about your feelings and how great she is.

No my friend, even though she asked you your not lucky enough to get away from the proposal ring thing.  If you try to forget about this step then I fear you will pay later in the form or resentment and not necessarily towards you but your girlfriends self resentment for being the one to pop the question.

 

Good Luck with this!

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Dear Peg:

My girlfriend just asked me to marry her.  Now I am only 22 years old and she is 20.  I love her and think getting married would be great in a year but I have a few questions.  1. Since she asked me shouldn’t I have gotten a ring or something.  2.  Its been two weeks and she is hinting for a ring from me.  Do I need to get her a ring? 

I am so confused by this.  What is the correct procedure in this case?

Proposal Confusion
Miami, FL

Dear Confused:

I really like this letter because woman are getting more and more confident in order to be the one to ask for a mans hand in marriage.  In answer to your question about whether she should have gotten you a ring.  Well yes she could have but no that is not a common practice.  The type of ring she could have gotten you would be a slightly fancier wedding band that can also be used during your marriage ceremony.  As far as whether or not you need to get her a ring.  YES!

I know that this doesn’t sound fair but for a long lasting relationship I will let you in on a few secrets.  The day she proposed you should have said yes and then scheduled a window shopping trip with her for the next day.  Small discussions about how much you can afford and what type of style ring she likes as well as size could take place.  Then you tell her that someday soon she will have a ring from you.  Now I know that you probably have not saved up for this expense and it will take some time to get the money together.  You can make her wait and explain this to her.  She should understand.  Don’t set a wedding date yet which will further draw attention to the fact she has no ring.  Gather your funds as quickly as possible and purchase her a ring she will love and you can afford.

The next step is to ask her to marry you.  I know you are thinking…”but I already said I would…why ask?”  The reason is because the way you ask her will say a lot as to your state of mind regarding the subject.  If you want this she will know.  Don’t do anything crazy and don’t do it in public or before family.  Private in a quiet location and make sure you mention “When you asked me to marry you I was happy.  I got excited and now I want you to know that I want this more than anything and it is now time for us to set a date.  I have gotten this ring to show you just how much you mean to me”….and make sure you add more about your feelings and how great she is.

No my friend, even though she asked you your not lucky enough to get away from the proposal ring thing.  If you try to forget about this step then I fear you will pay later in the form or resentment and not necessarily towards you but your girlfriends self resentment for being the one to pop the question.

 

Good Luck with this!

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